Have you ever had a conversation with someone and while they are talking, you are forming your answer in your mind and you are really not listening to them? Have you had a disagreement with someone – family member, friend, customer – and the two of you are arguing and neither one of you is really listening to the other?
I have and continue to do it all the time even when I know I shouldn’t! Well, the other day I came across an interesting concept on YouTube: The Talking Stick. It is a concept promulgated by Stephen Covey. If you are arguing with someone – pass them the talking stick. It can be a pencil, a pen, a stick from outside or anything to represent the Talking Stick. Who ever holds the stick gets to talk and the other does not – the other person must listen and not say a word. As soon as the person with the stick feels that they have made themselves understood, the stick is then passed to the other and the same rules apply. The stick is passed back and forth until both understand each other.
Realize that the Talking Stick is symbolic of being able to listen to the other side and then being able to answer. Try it. It is amazing how many arguments and misunderstandings can be resolved with something like the Talking Stick.
Let’s be good to each other…Let’s be REALTORS
Until next Monday…